Posted in Change, Relationships

Does Moving Forward, Mean Leaving Things Behind?

By Brittany Davis

We know life moves forward. The chapters of your past close, and new chapters get written everyday. It goes forward because, well, there’s no real way for it to go back. So you move on — and you should. But somewhere along the way a disconnect happened. A disconnect between taking a next step in your life, and what that new life actually means. When life opens a door, you’re supposed to explore what’s behind it. And when opportunities arise you’re supposed to seize them. But sometimes you have to stop and think, these things are happening for me, great, but at what cost? Is taking that step forward, going to make you take two steps back in the end? Continue reading “Does Moving Forward, Mean Leaving Things Behind?”

Posted in Change, Friendships, Relationships

That’s Friendships..

By Brittany Davis

It’s funny because when it comes to friendships, everyone warns you that in time things are gonna change.  Hearing it usually makes most of us laugh. We looked in the mirror and saw ourselves, looked next to us and saw our best friends and thought “Things will never change to the point where I’m not me, and I’m not with them.”  I mean seriously, what could possibly happen that could just destroy something that defined you for so long? How could the people that helped you grow into the person you are now, just abandon you? Or how could you just leave? So when it happens, it makes us search for answers. Maybe it was all of our faults.  Maybe we installed too much faith and certainty into our friendships and let them become our lives.  Maybe it’s our mistake for thinking that we could. But then I guess that is the problem; shouldn’t we be able to? Continue reading “That’s Friendships..”

Posted in Relationships, Uncertainty

That’s Having Expectations..

By Brittany Davis

Here’s the thing about expectations. We know that if you expect something there are really only two outcomes. You either get it or you don’t, you’re satisfied or disappointed. We expect our expectations to be met. Its the point. It’s when you expect something of someone and they let you down that it becomes a problem. When we let people in our lives, we expect them to be a part of it, we expect them to stay. But sometimes the expectation of them being a part of our life is met, but not in the way in which we hoped. Sometimes they become part of our lives by being a lesson. They become the person that never made it to our future. They show their true colors.  They show who they really are. The thing is, when people show you their true colors, it’s important to pay attention. Because once you’ve seen in color, there’s no going back to black and white. There’s no going back to who we thought they were.

That’s the thing about thinking you know someone. The reality is we only know the person they put out there, the things they choose to share and show. But can you ever really know someone? Who they are? Their intentions? What they stand for? What they believe in?  We have this ability of being so many people in a given day, to play so many different roles throughout our lives. So how do we know what’s true? How do we know which version to believe?  The truth is, we don’t ever really know anybody. We only know the people we expect them to be. Continue reading “That’s Having Expectations..”

Posted in Relationships, Uncertainty

That’s When They Fall Short…

By Brittany Davis

It’s hard when you feel like you’re not enough. Like nobody wants you, like you don’t even matter. You want to believe it’s not true, but life is doing everything it can to prove the opposite. It gives you people that are supposed to be there for you but then they aren’t. It gives you an idea of the way life is supposed to be, and then randomly takes it back. It lets you build people up, and then makes you sit there and watch as they fall short. It keeps you stuck between memories of what used to be and dreams of what could be. It keeps you torn between the two. The past has you held captive because they were there. The present has you stuck because they’re not. It makes you wonder what you’re supposed to do when a person who is supposed to be there for you isn’t, or when they choose not to be there.

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Posted in Friendships, Love, Relationships

That’s Our Hearts…

By Brittany Davis

We take our hearts for granted.  They pump our blood and with each beat they remind us we’re alive. These beats have the ability to speed up and slow down, but this ability is something that isn’t solely under our control.  Other people can determine how the thing that helps prove we’re alive operates. But somehow nobody sees anything wrong with that.  That should be the indicator right there. When love ends, and hearts break, it’s all because we took our heart, the thing that helps keep us alive, and entrusted it to another. Yet we still get surprised how sometimes we barely feel alive when we get it back.  We give it out whole and filled to the brim with hope, and can get it back shattered, our hope and faith in love sometimes included.

When you give someone your heart, or wear it on your sleeve you’re leaving yourself unprotected. Falling in love should be the goal of any person’s life, but don’t be blinded by it. It has the ability to be this life altering and fulfilling thing, but it also has the ability to make you feel destroyed. The trick is realizing the trade off. Part of what makes it all so magical is the unknown. This includes that you could be falling for someone who has no genuine interest of catching you. Our hearts only have the ability to feel, they can’t weigh the options for us. We all know the risks and rewards when we start to fall, but when we don’t get the fairy tale ending, we sit there surprised and shocked. But it’s not like we go into these things blindfolded, right? The problem is that all the possible outcomes aren’t weighed in our minds before we allow our hearts to speak for themselves. Anytime you fall you get left with some memory of it. Whether the evidence is in physical scars or emotional baggage, the fear it instills in us doesn’t easily go away. So why try again? Continue reading “That’s Our Hearts…”

Posted in Friendships, Love, Relationships

That’s Walking Away…

By Brittany Davis

We all have that someone that we know is bad for us. The one we can’t let go of. We sit and hope that we’re  going to be the person who makes it different, the one who changes the game.  We hope that despite what we know about them, we’ll be the one to make them better and ultimately better for us. But we all know the rules and we rarely see the exceptions. We know people don’t really change even though we wish they would. We see them modify. We watch them adapt, but that’s all temporary. It’s never anything permanent, and ultimately, the small differences you see are never enough. The reality is: you are never going to make them change.

If you can’t be with someone as they are, realize that. Don’t make them out to be something they’re not. Don’t try and make them the person you wish they’d become. The sooner you accept them for who they are the sooner you can realize what they aren’t; and that’s usually that they aren’t right for you. Realize that they’re not going to magically  become the thing you deserve. Sure, they may continue to be what you think you need and what you want, but have you ever stopped  and thought that maybe what you want and what you deserve are two different things?
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