It’s funny because when it comes to friendships, everyone warns you that in time things are gonna change. Hearing it usually makes most of us laugh. We looked in the mirror and saw ourselves, looked next to us and saw our best friends and thought “Things will never change to the point where I’m not me, and I’m not with them.” I mean seriously, what could possibly happen that could just destroy something that defined you for so long? How could the people that helped you grow into the person you are now, just abandon you? Or how could you just leave? So when it happens, it makes us search for answers. Maybe it was all of our faults. Maybe we installed too much faith and certainty into our friendships and let them become our lives. Maybe it’s our mistake for thinking that we could. But then I guess that is the problem; shouldn’t we be able to? Continue reading “That’s Friendships..”
Here’s the thing about expectations. We know that if you expect something there are really only two outcomes. You either get it or you don’t, you’re satisfied or disappointed. We expect our expectations to be met. Its the point. It’s when you expect something of someone and they let you down that it becomes a problem. When we let people in our lives, we expect them to be a part of it, we expect them to stay. But sometimes the expectation of them being a part of our life is met, but not in the way in which we hoped. Sometimes they become part of our lives by being a lesson. They become the person that never made it to our future. They show their true colors. They show who they really are. The thing is, when people show you their true colors, it’s important to pay attention. Because once you’ve seen in color, there’s no going back to black and white. There’s no going back to who we thought they were.
That’s the thing about thinking you know someone. The reality is we only know the person they put out there, the things they choose to share and show. But can you ever really know someone? Who they are? Their intentions? What they stand for? What they believe in? We have this ability of being so many people in a given day, to play so many different roles throughout our lives. So how do we know what’s true? How do we know which version to believe? The truth is, we don’t ever really know anybody. We only know the people we expect them to be. Continue reading “That’s Having Expectations..”
I think we all wish we could be fearless. I know I do. To walk to the edge of the cliff without a care in the world and just take that step, that leap of faith and then just free fall into the unknown. We’d love to embrace uncertainty rather than fear it. To have the chance to put all the past failures, betrayals, and pain in the back of our minds and even just for that moment let our minds fill up with possibility. To revel in the beauty of dreams we may not have even known we had. To love unconditionally, and without hesitation. To surrender whole-heartedly to another, without fear or suspicion. To take each moment as it comes, each person as they are, each day as an opportunity. To not be scared of what could happen if we do,but more afraid of what could happen if we don’t. To not be afraid of life, but more of not fully living.
The truth is, our lives have the potential to be remarkable. They hold the ability for our dreams to become realities, for the impossible to become attainable, and the chaos to become beautiful. Chaos creates opportunity. Opportunities for these lives we were given to become our own, to become unique onto ourselves, to be ours. We have the ability to own the moments of our lives. We have the ability to make our lives mean something. For them to be more than just a series of moments, to be more than merely existing. It’s up to us. The decisions we make shape the lives we lead. So choose wisely. But most importantly choose from your heart. Choose to make a difference. To affect change. To affect the lives of others. To become more. Choose to be yourself. To embrace what makes you, you. To stand out in a crowd. To laugh too loudly. To cry too easily. To fail. To be broken and to be the reason you smile. Find the joy in all your pain. Continue reading “That’s Living..”