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Stop Giving Advice To Your Younger Self

Screen Shot 2016-03-23 at 1.16.13 PM“What advice would you give to your younger self?” It’s a common question. One you’ve probably been asked or even asked someone yourself. And the responses are always so insightful. They’re always drenched with wisdom. Spoken from someone with hindsight that is 20/20.

They’re responses like, “I’d try and not take life too seriously?” or “I’d care less what people think” and even “I’d tell myself it’s gonna get better.” And while these trinkets of advice are all well and valid, they’re kind of counterintuitive. They’re pieces of advice you couldn’t give had you not gone through whatever struggle you overcame to learn them. If you eliminate the struggle, can there ever really be a lesson learned?

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Allow yourself to feel lost.

Screen Shot 2014-07-08 at 1.27.17 PMThere are always times in life where you feel lost. Where you see other people and their lives going off in one direction, and you feel stuck in yours. Or where you see other people enjoying the place they’re at, but you know there is something  greater out there for you…you just don’t know how to get there. But the trick to getting there is simple: itall starts with a step. It starts with one step in any direction. It starts with not worrying so much about where that step will lead you, and allowing yourself to figure it out along the way. It starts with throwing out the mapand the timeline, and walking forward anyway. It starts with being lost.

Because that’s the beauty of life isn’t it? To find what makes us happy. To become who we are. How can we do that if we aren’t searching? If we’re not exploring who we are. Why should we strive to always know where we’re headed? If life is truly about the journey and not the destination, why aren’t we getting lost more often?

It’s important to point out that being lost isn’t a bad thing. When we’re lost it means we’re always searching. For answers. For direction.  For clarity. And in most cases, for ourselves. We’re looking for something or someone to show us the way. There is a beauty to being lost. To not knowing which direction is up and moving forward anyway. To trusting in the plans the universe has for you, and having faith in how they will unfold.  To trusting in yourself to get you wherever it is you’re supposed to be. To knowing you’ll get there, even if you’re not yet sure where “there” is actually going to be.

It’s time to go seek the answers, or to choose to let them find you.  To know in your heart that not all those who wander are lost. To always be wandering and striving to explore the unknown. To choose to seek adventure where you can and create it where you must.   Allow yourself to explore the world — whether that it’s in another country or simply in the world you’ve created here. There’s adventure in every moment; it’s just up to us to seize them.

So, allow yourself to be lost. In the moment. In love. In your experiences. In your life. Take the time to wander off the beaten path. To choose the road less traveled. To follow your heart. Being lost gives us the opportunity to find the answers to questions we may not have even known we were asking. To find opportunities we didn’t’ even know existed. But above all, being lost allows who we are, and what we want, to finally be found.

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Choose to keep choosing.

There’s something really empowering about the fact that our life is made up of choices. Screen Shot 2014-05-07 at 4.44.52 PMThat each and every day we get to choose to make what we want out of this life. To feel the good, or give into the bad. To step out on faith, or rest comfortably in what we already have. We have the choice to find the magic in every moment. Or to create it if it’s not there. We have the choice to make our lives remarkable, so why don’t we all choose it?
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Life’s a blueprint. Build it.

When we’re younger, we picture our futures. We have this idea of what we want our lives to be. We write it down on paper. Our hopes and dreams. The things we hope we’ll achieve. The people we hope we’ll become. But here’s the thing about writing things on paper. Ink always fades. The dreams we had, choices we hoped we’d make, people we thought we’d become — it changes. We grow older. We grow wiser, and the things we want out of this life change. Things don’t always match up. When we’re younger we think by a certain age we should have accomplished certain things. By a certain age, we should have it all figured out. But as we get older we realize that’s not always the case. We realize that that’s not how life works. More importantly, we realize that it’s not how life is supposed to work. We’re not supposed to have it all figured out. Life has its own plan for us. We never know what could be around the next corner. We never know what the next moment can bring. Life has its own plan for us, but we need to realize that it’s okay to deviate from the plan. It’s okay to look at the life laid out before us and decide to try something different. To choose color instead of black and white. To plan for the unexpected. To decide to build something else. Continue reading “Life’s a blueprint. Build it.”

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Can You Ever Give Someone Your Whole Heart?

It’s been said that you take a piece of all the people that you meet with you. If this is true, every person you meet, passion felt and love experienced, leaves a mark on your heart that never really disappears. It means you take these memories with you. In your life, in your relationships, pretty much wherever you go. It means that when you love someone, you’re loving them with a heart that’s been changed and altered from people you’ve met along the way. The things you experienced. The love you once had. The loss you once felt. Does it ever really go away? It starts to make you wonder: can you actually ever give someone your whole heart? Continue reading “Can You Ever Give Someone Your Whole Heart?”

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Take Time To Stand Still

There’s something to be said about standing still. We spend each day rushing to the next moment of our lives, that we let so many others pass us by. We watch the minutes slip away, cross days off our calendars, and eagerly pursue whatever it is that we’re hoping comes next. Looking to the future is important, sure.  Setting goals, declaring dreams, they are all necessary in moving forward; they’re needed for us to progress and grow. But always rushing to the future, it robs us the beauty of standing still.

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The Thing About Perspective.

Perspective is a funny thing. On a train whizzing by you see faces of people you’ll never meet. From a plane you’ll can fly over places you may never get the chance to go. Walking along a crowded street you’ll hear voices telling stories you’ll never know the endings too.  All of these things, they can make the world feel so big and in turn, make your world feel so small. It can almost make you feel insignificant. Like in the grand scheme of things, your problems, your victories, and everything in-between, don’t really matter. But they do. There may be a big picture to this world, but your story is an important part of it.  You may be one ripple in a vast ocean, but that water can still feel the change.

Sometimes this vastness can make it feel like you’re drowning. It can make your life wrap you up in chaos tied with a bow of your daily routine. It can box you in so you’re stuck with who and what you know, but there’s a reason for that. The world may be big, but your world, the world you interact in daily, tends to be small. Most times it has to be this way; it’s how you get by from day-to-day. If you constantly were aware of every single thing that goes on in the world, everywhere, well, it would be overwhelming. So you tend to stick to what you know. Your life essentially becomes a bubble. But you can’t let this make you forget that there is an entire world out there. It’s a world filled with new opportunities and new adventures you have yet to embark on. There’s a world filled with people that you have yet to meet whose stories can change the course of your life in an instant. There’s always something around the corner, a hidden moment you have yet to uncover. Embrace this. Let your bubble pop. I think too often, you’re afraid of running out of time to accomplish things. Too often you worry that you aren’t where you thought you would be. Too often you’re scared that your life may not amount to something. Dismiss those fears. Know that that’s the beauty of a world filled with possibilities yet to be discovered; there’s always a way for the course of your life to change.

Bumping into someone on that crowded street can literally turn your life in another direction. Every moment that happens in your life is one detail that can change everything. So, stop getting bogged down in what’s currently in the confines of your life and start embracing the fact that there is still so much to come. Use the houses you see from a plane, or the faces that pass you by, as a reminder that there is so much more out there. More than you probably will ever get the chance to fully experience. But strive to soak up as much as you can. Try to look at life from different perspectives so that your perspective on life can change. Opportunity and possibility are all around you. It’s just up to you to see them. It’s up to you to find the perspective.

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It’s Not About Happy Endings.

Happy endings are a complicated thing. Being happy at the end of our lives is something to strive for, but it shouldn’t be the ultimate goal. What’s the point of being happy if it’s only at the end? That happiness is temporary. That happiness is fleeting. The goal should be to be happy right now. You have the opportunity to make that happen. You get to
decide what your ending becomes. The trick, is not to waste time focusing on it. The beauty of a story is in the progress that’s made; you can’t appreciate the ending without knowing what’s been overcome. Continue reading “It’s Not About Happy Endings.”

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Learn to lead with love, then watch love follow.

Tragedies often leave us wondering what’s the point. Why be a good person, if bad things can still happen? Why be selfless, if such selfish people exist? Well, the point is to have faith in spite of it all. To believe your kindness matters. To believe in the hearts of others. To believe that compassion will always win. Because if we don’t do that, these terrible moments just become that much more tragic.

Believe that love conquers all. Believe, and it will.