Never let anyone tell you what you’re worth.
Nobody gets to label who you are.
Don’t let them define you.
Labels, are just words.
Write your own identity.
By Brittany Davis
Pain is a weird thing. It’s weird because we can sit and talk about how much we hate it, how much it hurts us, how we wish we didn’t have to go through it and yes most of the time that is true. How much better would life be if we didn’t have to worry about what people were saying, and getting betrayed or lied to? How much easier would it be to actually smile and be happy instead of forcing yourself to seem like you’re fine? I mean there’s some logic to that. You force a fake smile one day, the questions stop coming, smile another day, and people go back to minding their business. Then soon enough you’ll become so good at it that you’ll think to yourself “Hey! Well if I fooled them, maybe ill fool myself into thinking I am happy” and that might work, it might even last for a few days. But then something will happen and before you know it, welcome back to the real world! And in the real world pain is inescapable. Within the four walls of your room, you sit and stare and secretly pray that somehow everything’s gonna be okay. That somehow or in some way things are gonna work themselves out and you can be happy. It’s weird to think that when we’re little, the word happy gets thrown around so easy. You get presents for your birthday, you’re happy. You do good on your report card, you’re happy. Then you get to middle school and high school and it’s like happy, what the hell is that? I don’t remember what that is let alone what it feels like. And honestly, I think it should be like that. No, I’m not crazy. Let me tell you why. Continue reading “That’s Pain…”
By Brittany Davis
What do you want? It’s pretty simple, straight forward, open-ended type of question, right? So why is it so hard to answer? Obviously I want a job, I want a career, I want to get my life started..but there’s so much else I’m not sure of yet. What kind of life do I want to live? Who do I want to spend it with? Do I take the first job I’m offered? Should I hold out for something I really want? What if I can grow to like it? What do I want? I want to wake up and be excited to get my day started..maybe not everyday, but most days.
I want to be the type of person companies want to hire; the type of person I can be proud of. I want to use my abilities to make a difference, to affect change, to let people know they’re not alone. I want to find someone. Not someone to complete me, but to make me better. But I want to find them when I’m positive I’ve found myself. I want so much, and sometimes not enough. I want to find success in what I do. I want to be happy. I want to work 9-to-5’s and go to happy hour; to work and still have a life. To not let my job control me, to still do the things I love to do. But I think most of all I want to stop trying to figure out what it is I want. I want to figure it out along the way.
By Brittany Davis
We wait for a lot of things. For the weekend to come, for those minutes on the treadmill to pass, to find the person of our dreams. We spend a good amount of time waiting for things to come and most of the time we know they will. That’s what makes those things a little easier, because we know we are waiting for something that will definitely come. Most of the time, our waiting has a deadline, a time frame that we know will eventually elapse. Unfortunately, looking and waiting for a job, it doesn’t always seem to have it’s perks. Especially when it feels like you’re waiting and everyone else’s ‘wait period’ has come to an end.
By Brittany Davis
Being so eager to start our careers, it strangely enough has me thinking about what it will feel like somewhere down the road. Ya know, when we actually get there. When we’re successful. We’re so quick to throw around that word, to strive to achieve it. But what is success? Is it making six figures? A flashy car? Private jet? Maybe it’s the big house with the white picket fence, 2.5 kids and a husband that puts Ryan Reynolds to shame. We’re all so quick to start our journey; to be able to call ourselves successful..but by whose standards? Society? Our family? Our friends? Who is to say what our lives should amount to?
Doing well in your career is important, absolutely. That’s kind of a huge point of pursuing them. But our jobs shouldn’t take over our lives, they should be a part of them. At the end of the day you want to be doing something you enjoy, doing something that has a purpose. Whether the purpose it fulfills is to someone else, or to yourself, what you do should matter. Success is so much more than being able to show up at your ten year high school reunion being able to show up your past classmates. It’s about showing up and having something to show for the time that’s passed. Maybe it’s a little cliche, but success to me is the intangibles. The memories created along the way and all the battles we overcame to get there. Success is waking up in the morning and knowing that this is what you wanted and not somebody else. It’s striving for more and not becoming complacent, but always having dreams as well as the desire to achieve them. At the end of the day, all that matters is that your smiling. Being happy with what you’ve accomplished, and where you are, but more importantly with who you are, to me? It doesn’t get any more successful than that.
By Brittany Davis
It’s crazy to think about the fact that you work your whole life to get to this point. The countless hours you spend studying and finding things to stack your resume to get the
best job. Sports. Community Service. Honors. Awards. You spend four years, but ultimately your entire life, doing whatever it takes to ensure that you will be the best candidate for the job your applying for. You think that because you’ve worked your ass off, it’s going to pay off, and it probably will. The thing is, nobody ever tells you what it feels like to wait. To apply to job after job and see no pay off. Yeah it’s a bad economy, and something crazy like 85% of us are unemployed and living at home with our parents again. You still think that that statistic is just a number; a number that couldn’t possibly include you.
I mean think about it. You got good grades, you mastered the material you were expected to master. You had the internships, you have the drive, but now it’s up to you to make it known that you’re ready. I’ll be honest, it’s a little discouraging. Knowing that you’ve worked so hard, and don’t have a job to show for it. It’s the not knowing that’s tough. The fact that you’ve applied to countless jobs and the only thing you have to show for it is the high number of e-mails in your “sent folder.” I’ve heard some people say that looking for a job, is a full time job. Turns out that it is more than just a clever saying, unfortunately it can also ring true. It’s hard to have faith that somewhere out there is a job for you, maybe not the dream job you’ve been envisioning but a job where you can prove you belong. The chance to prove that you aren’t all talk, and you have something to offer not only the company, but the world. Continue reading “Just Keep Swimming, Just Keep Swimming…”
By Brittany Davis
“Today’s the day my life begins. Today I become a citizen of the world. Today I become a grown up. Today I become accountable to someone other than myself and my parents. Accountable for more than my grades. Today, I become accountable to the world. To the future. To all the possibilities that life has to offer. Starting today, my job is to show up wide eyed and willing and ready. For what, I don’t know. For anything. For everything. To take on life. To take on love. To take on the responsibility and possibility. Today, my friends, our lives begin. And, I for one can’t wait.”
The day of graduation I had this quote on Facebook. I remember watching the episode of Grey’s Anatomy when it aired hearing the quote and reminding myself that when it came time for it to be that day, the quote would ring as true to me then as it just had. This idea of accountability. Of taking control of your life. Your actions. Choices. Mistakes. Triumphs. To see past GPA’s and honors, beyond the drama within friendships, to look over the parties and hangovers. Accountability: being responsible for what’s to come. This concept is something that is overlooked. When I first heard this quote, I was filled with hope in its’ promise. Intrigued by the complete incompleteness it had to offer me. It was reassuring in it’s lack of clarity. It didn’t tell me that I would walk out with a job, just that I would be walking out. It didn’t tell me that I was going to be sucessful, it just reminded me that I was going to “be.”