Posted in Self-Worth, Uncertainty

That’s Strength…

By Brittany Davis

To some people, being strong means your ability to hide your pain. So by their standards the more people you have fooled that you’re fine or happy the stronger you appear.  But looks are often deceiving. Just because the pain isn’t showing doesn’t mean it’s not there, right? Hiding your pain isn’t being strong. Disguising that pain and abuse, lessening the heartache and defeats; these things don’t make you strong. What makes you strong is letting them show. Taking that pain, and using it to get past it. Strength isn’t how well you hide the pain, but the strength you find to overcome it. Strength is the attempt to try. Some say strength is how much you can take without it tearing you to pieces. Well, I say strength is finding the courage to put the pieces back together. Continue reading “That’s Strength…”

Posted in Relationships, Uncertainty

That’s When They Fall Short…

By Brittany Davis

It’s hard when you feel like you’re not enough. Like nobody wants you, like you don’t even matter. You want to believe it’s not true, but life is doing everything it can to prove the opposite. It gives you people that are supposed to be there for you but then they aren’t. It gives you an idea of the way life is supposed to be, and then randomly takes it back. It lets you build people up, and then makes you sit there and watch as they fall short. It keeps you stuck between memories of what used to be and dreams of what could be. It keeps you torn between the two. The past has you held captive because they were there. The present has you stuck because they’re not. It makes you wonder what you’re supposed to do when a person who is supposed to be there for you isn’t, or when they choose not to be there.

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Posted in Self-Worth, Uncertainty

That’s Our Minds…

By Brittany Davis

It’s kind of crazy to think about the things that occupy our minds sometimes. You could be sitting one day content with your life, or so you think, and out of nowhere your brain could be completely filled. You’re sitting and things you thought you didn’t care about are suddenly at the surface of your mind. Anxiously trying to overflow the pool of what you know, until what you’re trying to figure out comes pouring over. Leaving drops of worry and hope in a puddle all around you. You’re sitting and things you know you shouldn’t care about are suddenly affecting your moods in a way you didn’t even know was possible. It’s crazy how our minds don’t have an off switch; how they don’t have a filter. A way for the things that matter and the things that don’t to be separated and the latter to dissolve.  It’s crazy how they can just wander and dream without us even realizing that our brains have checked out. It’s crazy that the thing that controls the rest of us, is sometimes the thing we can’t control. Continue reading “That’s Our Minds…”

Posted in Life, Uncertainty

That’s Timing…

By Brittany Davis

Time is a funny thing. Sometimes it can be everything, other times it can be nothing. It’s something we have no say in. It’s something that’s beyond our reach. We can’t control when we feel things, nor can we control when we discover we feel them. It’s all about timing. But here’s the thing about it: time can either work for you or be actively working against you. Like the times when you love someone but the timing is off. Or when you fall in love and the timing is perfect. But if at the time you didn’t know it, what does it matter? If at the time you didn’t feel it, what do you do? Continue reading “That’s Timing…”

Posted in Life, Uncertainty

That’s Taking Nothing For Granted…

By Brittany Davis

It’s easy to take anything in life for granted because we always assume that tomorrow is promised, so what you do today doesn’t really affect anything you do, right? Wrong. There are few things in life, if any, that are truly guaranteed.  Which is why the people you meet and the relationships you create should be cherished because it’s only within those very moments that they’re certain. Don’t become complacent. Treat everyday as a new opportunity.  A chance to tell those who matter to you just how much you need them. A test of your character to try to and  face the obstacles that present themselves every day head on.

You have to learn to not sweat the small stuff. You have to learn to realize they’re just details.  They might define you at the moment, but they don’t define you as a person. Who you are and what you stand for are things that nobody else can control.  People are going to talk, give them more to say.  People are going to try and break you, give them more reasons to try.  Everyday you live the life you want the people trying to tear you down lose a breath, make them suffer. Each day you wake up you are given the ability to start over.  You’re given the chance to correct yesterday’s  mistakes. The person you were yesterday can be made better today because nothing in this life is permanent. Nothing in this life lasts forever. The chance to realize it is here.

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Posted in Post-Graduation, Self-Worth, Uncertainty

Recognize Your Path..

By Brittany Davis

For some reason there’s a stigma to working for your parents. Whether it’s from society or self -induced is your call. Regardless of where you fall, the stigma lies in the phrase itself: working for your parents. It somehow implies the inability to find something on your own or  that you only have this opportunity because of your parents. Well yeah, that’s kind of the point. Half of the business world today is based on who you know, not always what you can do. So why should working for your parents or for the family business be any different? It doesn’t mean you’ve failed. It means they are giving you the opportunity to one day succeed.

To get to where you want to be in life, it takes making a start. It takes changing your point of view to the situation. Employment is employment, whatever shape or form it comes in; whatever the opportunity. Find the positives in what you have the opportunity to embark on instead of harping on the fact that maybe it’s not the path you thought you would be heading down. Who knows what the potential route has to offer? It could be the stepping stone you need to get to where you one day will end up being. Recognize an opportunity when it presents itself. Recognize the opportunity to create a path yourself or choose to recognize the path laid before you and walk it with purpose.

Posted in Post-Graduation, Uncertainty, Unemployment

How It Really Is..

By Brittany Davis

I have to admit I’m a glass half full kinda girl, but this past week I found myself noticing that the glass seemed more empty than it did full. The thing is, when it comes to trying to find a job, it gets tough. Watching other people embark on their journeys, and realizing that you’re still at home trying to figure out your destination. Now I’m not naive. I know I’m not gonna get my dream job straight out of college, nor do I want that, but I expected to find something.

So back to my glass half empty dilemma. I’ve been able to control how I choose to find the fact that three months after graduation I’m still unemployed. But if I’m going to be honest, it’s been getting to me. It’s a little discouraging. Makes you feel a little unqualified. Makes you feel a little ‘not worth it’ Now I know all of these things aren’t true, but it doesn’t change the fact that the emotions are. What I’m starting to remember, is that nobody can tell you what you’re worth or what you’re capable of. A lack of people wanting to employ you, doesn’t necessarily mean a lack of ability. I’m the type of person who likes to try and find the positive in things, but that doesn’t mean this is a positive experience all the time–I just like to try and make myself view it that way.

Which is why when it comes to unemployment, I’m not viewing the glass as half full or half empty. I’m not viewing it as a good thing or a bad thing. I’m viewing it as what it is. A transition period, a chance to perfect my skills for whenever that day comes. I’m viewing it as water, and drinking all the uncertainty down with it.

Posted in Life, Self-Worth, Uncertainty

That’s Not Letting Life Stop You…

By Brittany Davis

It should come as no surprise that life doesn’t always work out the way you feel it should. Maybe you were up all night studying for a test and your friend went out to a party. The day you get your grades back, she did better. You’re left thinking how the hell did that happen? Or, how about you’re trying out for the school play, you’re clearly more talented and passionate about the part but the director picks someone else. It sucks. The person you’re crushing on, ends up trying to get a date with your best friend. The scenarios are endless, and this is probably one of those cases where the more times it happens..it doesn’t make it any easier. Despite the fact that life can suck sometimes, you have to keep pushing through. Whether you believe that good things happen to good people, all good things happen in time, or that eventually the other shoe will drop–whatever your philosophy, embrace it. Believe it. Why? Continue reading “That’s Not Letting Life Stop You…”

Posted in Life, Uncertainty

That’s Our Fate…

By Brittany Davis

The reality is that things are going to happen that change the plot of the life you’re living, but within the big picture it all works out as it is supposed to.  You can chalk it up to things happening for a reason, or it just being the way life works out, but to say that our life is  predetermined– what is this saying?  That we  have no control over what happens in our lives?  Sure, there are some things that happen that we can chalk up to fate, but it can only take us so far.  At a certain point it comes down to us and our actions.  The choices we make and how we react to what comes before us.  So many times we just let life define us; can’t we define ourselves? Continue reading “That’s Our Fate…”

Posted in Post-Graduation, Uncategorized, Uncertainty, Unemployment

What do I want? A Not So Loaded Question.

By Brittany Davis

What do you want? It’s pretty simple, straight forward, open-ended type of question, right? So why is it so hard to answer? Obviously I want a job, I want a career, I want to get my life started..but there’s so much else I’m not sure of yet. What kind of life do I want to live? Who do I want to spend it with? Do I take the first job I’m offered? Should I hold out for something I really want? What if I can grow to like it? What do I want? I want to wake up and be excited to get my day started..maybe not everyday, but most days.

I want to be the type of person companies want to hire; the type of person I can be proud of. I want to use my abilities to make a difference, to affect change, to let people know they’re not alone. I want to find someone. Not someone to complete me, but to make me better. But I want to find them when I’m positive I’ve found myself. I want so much, and sometimes not enough. I want to find success in what I do. I want to be happy. I want to work 9-to-5’s and go to happy hour; to work and still have a life. To not let my job control me, to still do the things I love to do. But I think most of all I want to stop trying to figure out what it is I want.  I want to figure it out along the way.